X Factor Hits A Bum Note / Thoughts on True LovePosted: August 21, 2011
Love it or loathe it, you can’t deny the X Factor is a massive part of Britain’s culture.
The papers can’t stop talking about it, millions watch it religiously and you probably like it too…even if you won’t admit it.
Last night, the time had come. X Factor 2011. So here we go… Audition one.
Who will the producers pick to open one of the UK’s biggest shows?
When Louis Walsh asked Frankie why he auditioned for the X Factor, Frankie replied replied “to get lots of girls”. In a separate interview he also said he’d like to sleep with as many women as possible.
It gets better… He doesn’t have a job and recently went to Malia and got the names of seven different girls tattooed on his bum…which he then proceeds to show everyone.
At this, Kelly Roland (ex Destiny’s Child) remarks “I freaking love the UK!”
Yes, because this man sums up young people like me. We don’t have jobs, we consider ourselves “a liability”, we want to spread as many STDs as possible and get famous for the sake of being famous. Oh and we love to get tattoos on our bums. Yep, that’s us! Welcome to the UK, Kelly. This is our culture.
The girls LOVED him. The judges LOVED him. He had a good voice, but why encourage the lifestyle he aspires to? Are girls just there for men to sleep with? Is that their purpose? I’m not writing this just to slag off one 18 year old. That would be unfair, because the facts are that Frankie represents thousands of other young people with similar views.
Maybe you’re one of them? Please hear me. This isn’t meant to be Sam being some kind of ‘Judgemental Christian Conservative’ trying to spoil everyone’s fun. I’m not a feminist either. I just think women should be treated with respect, and it makes no sense to me to watch other women encouraging this lad by cheering and laughing along.
Frankie is representative of many young people. Here’s what these boys say to girls: “I want to sleep with as many of you as possible, I don’t have a job. I can’t support you long term. I’m not interested in that. I just want some satisfaction, and you’ll do. I’ll tell you you’re hot, and you’ll like that and go along with my wishes. When I’m finished with you, I’ll move on. That’s my view of sex and relationships. Are you in?”
Sadly, the answer from many girls is “yes”, when it should be “get lost, you jerk”.
The two people I saw tie the knot yesterday weren’t much older than Frankie, but their attitudes couldn’t have been more different. It was a wonderful celebration of true love, not the kind of lust a lot of young people like Frankie are into. Life long commitment may not be easy, but most couples will tell you it’s so much more rewarding than the shallow alternative.
To the fellas I wanna say “grow up”. Be a man, not a boy who can shave. A real man is someone who treats women with respect and dignity, not use and abuse them as they please.
The the girls I wanna say: “Don’t settle for the dumb guys.” There are plenty of guys who just want to use you. And as a man, it pains me to say that. But love is not about using the other person. It’s about giving to the other person. There are guys out there who want to love and care for their ladies. Find one of those men. They will make you happy.
X Factor gives plenty of time to the dumb guys. And they love the attention. They are all about what they can get, not what they can give. Everything Frankie said on the programme tonight revolved around what he could get from girls. It was lust. And everyone applauded.
The two people I saw marry yesterday, want to give to each other for the rest of their lives. That’s love. It’s not easy, but my goodness it’s a million times better than any alternative.
I’ve been bold and outspoken. Now it’s your turn. Comment below…